Did you know that 49million people have tried online dating?
Once upon a time it was such taboo & now it’s very mainstream and accepted within society. There are definitely still some that turn their noses up to online dating however, I personally feel it’s the wave of the future. I have my grievances however, I do think it’s something everyone should try at least once! While, this list is literally just the TIP of the TIPS I could give you for online dating I feel this is a great starting point! So whether you’ve already hopped on the Tinder train….( no pun intended) or are thinking of giving it a shot I think this is the post for you!
Think about how you want to “sell” yourself. While the pictures are obvi important, there are tons of pretty faces on dating apps. Your “bio” is often sooo much more important than you may think. Telling a funny joke, discussing your hobbies, SHOWING PERSONALITY IN GENERAL can help secure the DM 😂.
Now that you’ve thought about how to attract your future match, what is it that you want to attract? Not only just physically but educationally, professionally, socially, etc. This is a lesson I learned by trial & error it took me sometime to identify exactly what I was looking for in a guy. There were times I thought I wanted one thing & realized I needed to go back to the drawing board. Definitely know your value & worth however, also be aware of what you yourself can bring to the “table”.
Be safe! Understand that not everyone out there is kind & always proceed with safety in mind. I personally like to get to know a person for a few days/maybe even a week before I have a meetup. I’m not ashamed to say I’ve definitely googled possible dates & have been able to catch some pretty big lies & not waste my precious time! So don’t go into it thinking everyone is being truthful. At the end of the day lust rules dating apps & understand that there will be times you will be told what you WANT to hear to get what is WANTED from you.
Along with safety for the initial meet-up determine where you will go. Public locations are always ideal and can be low-key (Bookstore, Starbucks, smoothies etc).
However, if you are not looking for something casual or a hook-up.
DON’T NETFLIX & CHILL, I REPEAT DON’T NETFLIX & CHILL.
Stick to your guns there’s definitely plenty of other people that may agree to doing that with your match, however understand what you accept is what you will have. If someone makes you feel that if you don’t agree to what they want to do specifically THAT… just move on to the next. Remember to value yourself above all & there will always be another fish in your sea….
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Be authentic & have fun! At the end of the day you’re trying out online dating for a reason, don’t get too caught up in worrying if someone will like you because YOU liking your date is just as important. Don’t post that photo from 5yrs ago, don’t claim to have material possessions you don’t own or hobbies that you don’t engage in! Someone will like you for who you are…weird or not so just be real & genuine!
Have you ever tried or thought of online dating? Was the experience positive or negative for you?